Couples and Relationship Therapy

Couples who are exploring ethical non-monogamy (e.g polyamory, open relationships, swinging etc.) have been finding their way into my practice since I started it and I’m so glad they did! My own identity as a non-monogamous person, and my interest in supporting couples through relationships have likely contributed to this fact, and I feel grateful to be in support of my community in this tangible way.

There is a magic that happens between us when we are witnessed in our relational world; when what usually happens behind closed doors in our home, is being seen from a new perspective. Sometimes it’s enough to have a container to talk honestly about our relationship with our partner(s). And sometimes we need more guidance, which might come in the shape of receiving emotional attunement, learning how to provide this for one another, or skilling up in best practices that support secure attachment within relationships, monogamous or not.

As a therapist practicing from an Emotionally Focused Therapy lens, there are few moments more gratifying than when the core of a conflict gets crystallized, relational wounds emerge and are finally given a voice within a relational dynamic. My work is to guide clients to allow themselves to sense into their own emotional experience and to touch into their true feelings and needs, which are so often obfuscated by years of coping strategies and defenses. Those mechanisms once served them well, but now contribute to an unsustainable cycle of behaviors that are leading to increasing disconnection with one another. If you’re noticing repeated patterns like this in your relationship(s), it would be an honor to sit in the muck with you and to find a way out of this labyrinth together.